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Podcast #167 Tony Wrighton on Enjoying The Journey of Life

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Tony has been a presenter on Sky Sports since 2006. He is a regular on Sky Sports News HQ, and also the regular presenter of Golfing World. He hosts a roster of other sports on Sky Sports channels 1-5. Tony is also a personal development author and presenter, known for his work on Zestology. He has three books published with Virgin Books in 12 languages and is one of the country's foremost experts on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

He is the host of top-rated podcast Zestology, interviewing a wide range of experts in the field of health and personal development, and having lots of fun along the way. He regularly appears as a guest on other shows talking about energy, vitality, and motivation.

Check him out at tonywrighton.com

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3 Reminders On How To Enjoy Life

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What Is Life Really About?Do you feel lost, hopeless or simply confused about your current and future life? As someone who has spent many hours reminiscing about greater times in the past, I've come to the understanding that nostalgia is a double-edged sword.

If we constantly dwell on how things used to be, when we were younger, when people were still our friends and partners, we may sacrifice our current and future happiness.

Friends come and go

While we'd all like some things to be permanent, friends are one of those things that may not be. As we move to parts of our towns and countries, it's easy to disconnect. We have the ability to stay connected via Facebook, email and other sorts of digital media, but it's not the same.

I've lived in three vastly different cities in the last 10 years and still are learning to accept this! The truth is that things change and it's up to us to accept it or fight it.

Fighting loss and living in denial seems to make things worse. It's as if nature intends us to move forward, just as a storm passes by. You can see the storm coming and begin to question "what's it gonna be like?". Next the storm comes through and shows it's true power. This is when the strong make it and the weak may not. The storm passes and it's all over. Now it's time to see what's changed and what remains. We can then cherish what we have remaining.

If we begin to look at nature's coping process to help us through life's traumas we may start to develop strength against them.

If the birds became increasingly frightened every time a strong breeze came along, they'd eventually just give up. They would become so paranoid of the next breeze that even a minor waft of air would make them leave the nest.

We have power and strength to move on after change and loss. It's just a matter of becoming a spectator and not so much a responder.

Our blood is our tribe

Even though I've developed some amazing friendships with people as a podcast host in the past few years, my blood is still my true tribe. This is an inherent fact that lies in all of our DNA. While others can become special role models and key players for our personal journey through life, our true family remains on the forefront of our DNA.

Spending time with our loved ones and our closest family members is potentially one of the greatest anti-anxiety and depressants available to mankind.  

Many people have a negative connotation to their family tree that seems to be rifled with conflict and other petty issues. Despite the problems that our families may or may not have, our DNA enjoys being around them. Tribes have spent their entire lives with their blood, this is the only thing that made sense. People across the world outside of the United States often live with their family for a large portion of their lives. We are one of the few countries who attempts to run out of the door at age 18 to start our own lives.

  • Is the moment we move away and separate from our tribe the moment our confusion about life begins?
  • Have you spent time away from the ones that you've loved and needed the most? What was it that took you away in the first place?

As society seems to become more digitally connected, we are becoming socially and physically isolated. This is creating a massive epidemic of depression and a lack of true purpose in our individual lives.

We need to seek out more physical interaction.

If you have the ability to see your family in person, do it on a regular basis. Many people complain about family issues, grudges and unresolved matters. One beneficial step towards getting over these issues and working towards a happier conclusion is to read Change Your Brain, Change Your Body: Use Your Brain to Get and Keep the Body You Have Always Wanted.

Now is a good time to let go of the past and begin to narrow our focus to the present moment.

The future has not been written and your journal is nothing but a blank slate! You can control what ends up on the pages of your life.

Pursue and harvest love

Many singers and influential people throughout history have alluded to the enormous benefits of LOVE. We need love. We crave love. We all just need someone to love.

Without love, it's as if your "lens of life" is clouded over with confusion and a lack of certainty. With love, it's as if the fog was cleared from your mirror after a hot shower. The reflection and potential for happiness is then restored!

Love is not a topic in almost every song for no reason. Love is one of the most confusing topics to scientists as it's something we can't perfectly describe with numbers, equations and big words. It's one of those things you just feel.

An active pursuit and harvest of love is essential to happiness in the 21st Century.

WE ARE NOT ROBOTS.

If someone wants to go through life feeling like a robot, it's simple:

  • lock yourself inside for the majority of the time
  • disempower yourself by only focusing on things you can't control
  • eat a poor diet
  • only focus on the negative parts of life

On the other hand, if someone wants to live a life of passion, emotion and raw feelings of what it's like to be a human:

  • pick up the phone and call someone to meet up
  • take some snacks and go for a walk in a popular part of town
  • talk to strangers about life (I seriously do this often..do you)
  • ask someone a question that cannot be answered by a yes or no (what's it like working at the Zoo? what brought you here? where did you live before here?)
  • just get up and move. exercise may stimulate empowering thoughts
  • cherish the people around you. hug them and kiss them longer and more frequently
  • just say I LOVE YOU

I can't think of a better way to end this than saying that I love you.

I am on the same spinning rock we call Earth as you. We are in this together even though it may not feel like it most of the time. We need each other and we depend on each other for our way of life.

There are people that do care.

There are people that think the same crazy and desperate thoughts as you. Everyone else is just trying to figure out how to be happy too. Yes, we all know how hard life can be. Yes, we want more time to spend with our friends and family, less stress, more delicious food, more sleep and more sex too...We just have to keep working at it.

Effort is the first step of figuring it out. You have the power inside of your heart and spirit to begin. Take a breath and feel it.

How to Enjoy Life When No One Else Does

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How to Enjoy LIfe When No One Else DoesAre you sensitive to other people and their energies? If so, it may feel like you're at a disadvantage. Due to the epidemic proportions of depression, obesity and poverty that are encircling the globe, it can be tough to stay positive.

However, feeling sorrow and pain from the energy of others should not be a death sentence.

I will teach you a few simple shifts in your perception to help you live in a more blissful state.

Acknowledge the problems

The problem with adults, which I didn't realize until I was one, is that we avoid problems like the plague. We want to cover all the ugly parts about life and hide them under the carpet. This is the same type of thinking that got us in trouble.

From the pollution of our rivers, lakes, streams and oceans, to air pollution and other environmental damage we've done, we keep ignoring the problem. I'm afraid we will ignore our problems until it's too late.

However, if we can begin to shift our focus to the problems and work on solutions, we will be better off.

There are many similarities to our lifestyle and a cat in a litter box covering up it's poop. Cats may actually do a better job than us!

Action step: Acknowledge the issues around you and take baby steps towards solutions. If the problem is too big, such as ocean pollution, focus on raising awareness.

Get fired up

I tend to keep a pretty calm demeanor which you're probably familiar with if you listen to the show. I've learned there are certain times in life where high intensity energy is required to accomplish something. Often times, in the most intense of experiences, your adrenaline and endorphins make you feel superhuman. These are the times where our true primal nature shows through our domesticated society.

I'm not advocating anger or violence. I do think that humans as individuals are far more powerful than they believe. We have huge potential for strength, revolt and upheaval. As we continue on the same broken path as our ancestors, we need an extreme change.

Now is the time to get fired up about your issues.

Action step:  Let your voice be heard. Raise up with people in your local community. Form a group, club or meetup group designed to empower and help each other achieve the same goal. Strength in numbers is historically powerful.

Quit caring what people think

Worrying about how people perceive you is a massive mistake. If I were to shape and sculpt my show to appeal to every single person, I'd probably be #1 on the podcast charts. However, I stick to my guns, heart and goal to provide the truth.

This comic may present a reason my show is not aired on mainstream television and other more popular outlets.

 

“First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi

These are two pieces of empowerment you should keep locked in your consciousness.

If you want to achieve something radical, you have the push the boundaries of social acceptance. In college I took a sociology class that focused strictly on discussing and penetrating social norms. Part of our work was to go out in society and break "the rules".

We did silly things like walk backwards down the sidewalk, wear underwear on the outside of our pants and other ridiculous things. I ended up running into a bingo hall and yelling "bingo" way before bingo was even possible. It was hilarious and exhilarating. Societal pressures and common sense usually keep us from doing things like this.

If you live in fear or constantly monitor people's perception of you, you'll end up paralyzed. You'll be afraid to make any action in fear of messing up.

It's in our failures that we learn how to succeed.

Action step: Do something you've always feared and quit worrying about people judging you. "Haters" can be a good thing. Use them as a weapon to sharpen your skills.

Separate yourself from the negativity

What happens when you marinate a piece of meat in the fridge for a few days? The flavors you added to the bag are now part of the meat.

This is the same thing that happens when you "marinate" yourself in society. You absorb, transform and morph into a homogenized version of your former self. We lose sense of who we are when we are mixed into the presence of others for too long.

Scheduling alone time is one of the most important things you can do for your health, personality and sanity.

If you are surrounded by a negative workplace, friends and family members, get away. It's that simple. I know it seems like you are stuck around certain negative situations, people and places, but you really aren't.

I've lived in 3 different parts of the United States in the last 10 years and am proof that you can seriously change your scenery and vibe at any time. Logistically, there will be some roadblocks and other issues that you'll have to work out. However, what are you waiting for?

Will you keep waiting for your happiness to blossom?

Do you say:

  • I'll be happy when....
  • If I can just save a little more money I'll...
  • I can't get away from this job....

These are just a few examples of things I've told myself. These were the thoughts that paralyzed me from making decisions that would later change my life for the better.

When I was able to sit in the woods by myself and really think about what direction I wanted to go in life, the moves I had to make were crystal clear.

Action step: Go in nature, sit by yourself and think. Bring a pen and paper and wait until you have something to write down. If no thoughts surface, walk and sit down again.

Just enjoy yourself

At the end of it all, we are supposed to enjoy life.

It's when we get caught up in the monotony of bills, work, traffic, cell phones, social media, drama, television, news, war, negativity, violence and just plain stupidity that we forget what life is about.

Life is a journey. You're on the journey right this second. This is part of your personal history book.

If you had to look back at this very moment 20 years from now, would you be happy with the decisions you made after reading this article? I sure hope so.

The power is in your hands. One of the few people holding you back from success and the ability to enjoy life is yourself. Trust me, I've been there.

Action step: Turn on music that makes you feel good. Put on your headphones. Go for a walk. Smile. Write down your blessings and ask for help on the next chapter of your journey.

What was the effect on your mindset? Comment below